The girl who decided not to take the university, how was it last?那个决定不考大学的女孩，最后怎么样了？

The girl who decided not to take the university, how was it last?那个决定不考大学的女孩，最后怎么样了？
那个决定不考大学的女孩，最后怎么样了？
我在公众号后台看到一个小朋友的留言，她上高二。跟我说，眼看着现在高三的学长学姐每天都活得特别累，觉得这样的生活很可怕，看着他们在题海里苦苦挣扎的样子，自己也压力山大。


她暑假在一家手机专卖店里做促销员，生意好的时候能赚到五六千一个月，比她刚大学毕业的表姐挣得还多。


她问我，在这个时代挣钱那么容易，上不上大学还有那么重要吗？


有太多的工作可以提供从前只面对大学生们开放的高薪和福利，即便是从前被人轻视的蓝领，如今也能轻易赚得盆满钵满。

 


年轻有太多优势，唯有短视是不可回避的缺点。在我十几岁乃至二十岁出头的时候，也从没有想过未来。那时我羡慕邻居家的姐姐高中毕业就去做了销售，不仅不用读书、做试卷，还可以穿着美美的制服和高跟鞋，每个月也有好几千元的收入。


那个姐姐跟我做了多年的邻居，上学的时候其实成绩不错，努力一下，考个一本院校也不是没有可能。可她觉得冲刺太辛苦，早早地便放弃高考，每天只是在家学学化妆，跑到附近的店里去打零工。


那几年她做得顺风顺水，听说签下了好几个大单。家里的家具都换了新的，家属院里的老邻居纷纷称赞，说这孩子出息了，不比上过大学的差。


我大三那年，她失业了，坐在满地烟头的楼道中，叹着气：“我们这种靠青春吃饭的人，只要青春没了，就什么都没有了。你看看我，现在要怎么跟那些十八九岁、口齿伶俐的小姑娘竞争？”



她在家待了大概两个月，然后找工作，却四处碰壁。就在我快要放暑假时，听到她要回老家的消息。她临走时来跟我妈告别，说自己还有两万块的积蓄，在城市里混不下去，希望在老家做点小生意，有个立足之地。此后我们再也没有见过面。


我常常想起她。每当看到有类似“某初中少女月入十万”的新闻时，我都会忍不住想，那会是她吗？

学识决定眼界，眼界决定格局，而格局决定人的一生。


当我们年轻的时候，太容易盯住一点蝇头小利，被一点利益蒙住双眼，以为生活会永远顺遂，青春永远不老。


可是当你年逾三十，脸上的胶原蛋白都被雨打风吹去，还跟身边甜美可人的小姑娘推销着同一款手机时；当你查出脂肪肝，陪客户喝酒力不从心，却还要跟你同公司出来的年轻人端着酒杯侃侃而谈时，你要怎么办呢？


我曾经跟一位做记者的朋友聊天。她采访过许多生活在社会底层、痛苦不堪而又无力改变现状的体力劳动者，对生活带给他们的巨大惯性心有戚戚焉。我随口说了句：“他们既然想要改变，为什么不能用业余时间去学点技能呢？”


她用那种“何不食肉糜”的眼神看了我一眼：“你以为他们都能跟我们一样朝九晚五带双休？上班就是坐在电脑前分析一下数据、回邮件、做个PPT？让你上班站八个小时，看你下班后还有没有精力学习？”


“生活的惯性是很可怕的。”她说。


许多人一开始，选择一份门槛低、含金量也低的工作。然后在日复一日的简单重复中，一点点失去斗志和精力，随波逐流，得过且过。找一个跟自己差不多的伴侣，两个人一起陷入生活的泥潭，想要向前挪一步，比登天还难。


生命依然在继续，生活却早已停滞，停留在你无力改变的那个瞬间。往后的几十年，都是那一天的简单复制。



一纸大学文凭，不仅仅是某个领域的敲门砖，还是人摆脱生活惯性的出口。


享受更多的资源、认识更多的人、拥有更多的机会，才能摆脱之前那些短视的，甚至有些愚昧的观点。


有时候人生的岔路，就是从一个机会开始，然后越走越远，再也无法回头。


我一位女友公司的司机，有严重的腰椎间盘突出，却连一天假也不敢请。因为只要他休一天假，就意味着全勤奖和补助都泡了汤，收入折半，而家里还有要上学的女儿、没有工作的妻子和年逾七十的老母。


他可以跳到其他地方工作，却无法摆脱司机这个职业。从长途车换到公交车再换到商务车，所能做的只能是在那狭小的缝隙里翻转腾挪。


那个男人，开了二十多年车，在一线城市中，拿着四千出头的工资。每天除八小时的正常工作之外，有紧急采访时，他也必须随叫随到。


他花了两个月的工资，给上初中的小女儿报了一个数学培训班。他说：“我一定要供她上大学，不为给我争气，只是想她以后不必像我一样，只能困在这一种人生里，动弹不得。”


这就是我为什么依然想要像个老古板一样，劝你好好读书，劝你去考大学。并不是因为打工妹就比别人低贱卑微，也并不是因为除了这一条路之外别无他处可去。而是我太清楚，一个连学习都嫌累的人，很难咽下生活的苦。

那张文凭，虽然许不了你飞黄腾达，却也至少在你想要摆脱某种苦难的时候，赋予你一点点能力和资格，帮你推开一扇新的门，给你更多的机会去选择，去见识更大的世界。


对绝大多数人而言，受教育不是为了站上顶峰，而是为了不跌入谷底。

 

别让生活把你困在二十几岁。


看不清脚下的时候，不妨踮起脚尖伸长脖子，努力向远处去望。


最后，祝所有今年参加高考的孩子们都能取得自己满意的成绩！

The girl who decided not to take the university, how was it last?

I am in the public background to see a child's message, she was on high school. Told me that the eyes of the senior students now learn the school every day to live particularly tired, think this life is terrible, watching them struggling in the sea of ​​look like the way, their pressure mountain.


She summer vacation in a cell phone store to do promoters, business time can earn five or six thousand months, than she had just graduated from college cousin earn more.


She asked me, in this era to make money so easy, not on the university there is so important?


There are too many jobs can be provided only before the face of college students open high salaries and benefits, even the former was despised blue collar, and now can easily earn pours.

 


Young have too many advantages, only short-sighted is an unavoidable shortcomings. In my teens and even twenty years old, never thought about the future. At that time I envy my neighbor's high school graduation to do the sales, not only do not study, do papers, you can also wear beautiful uniforms and high heels, every month there are several thousand dollars of income.


That sister with my neighbors for many years, when the school actually good results, try, test a college is not impossible. But she felt sprint too hard, early to give up the college entrance examination, every day at home only school make-up, went to the nearby store to go odd jobs.


That years she was doing sailing, I heard that signed a few big single. Home furniture for a new, family courtyard of the old neighbors have praised, saying that the child interest, and not worse than the University on the poor.


I was that year, she was unemployed, sitting on the floor of the cigarette butts, sighed: "We rely on the young people to eat, as long as the youth did not, nothing on you look at me now How can you compete with those eighteen and nine years old, articulate little girl?



She stayed at home for about two months, and then find a job, but ran around. Just when I was going to summer vacation, I heard the news of her home. She came to tell my mother farewell, said he still has twenty thousand savings, in the city can not mix, hoping to do small business in the home, there is a foothold. Since then we have never met again.


I often think of her. Whenever I see a similar "a junior girl into the 100,000" news, I can not help but think that it will be her?



Knowledge determines the vision, vision to determine the pattern, and the pattern determines the person's life.


When we are young, too easy to pegged a little petty profits, was a little bit of blindfolded eyes, that life will always be smooth, youth is never old.


But when you are more than thirty years, the face of the collagen are the wind blowing the wind, but also around the sweet and pleasant little girl selling the same phone; when you find fatty liver, to accompany the customer drinking power, but But also with you with the company out of the young people holding a glass of eloquent, how do you want to do?


I used to chat with a friend who was a journalist. She interviewed many living in the bottom of society, painful and unable to change the status quo of manual workers, to bring their lives to their great inertia heart Qi Yan. I casually said: "Since they want to change, why can not spare time to learn skills?


She used the kind of "why do not eat meat," the eyes looked at me: "You think they can be the same with us nine to five with two days? Work is sitting in front of the computer to analyze the data, back to the mail, to be a PPT? Let you go to work for eight hours to see you after get off work there is no energy to learn?


"The inertia of life is terrible," she said.


Many people start, choose a low threshold, gold content is also low work. And then day after day in a simple repeat, a little bit of fighting spirit and effort, drift, too. Find a partner with their almost, two people together into the quagmire of life, you want to move forward step, more difficult than the ascension.


Life is still going on, life has long been stagnant, stay in the moment you can not change. The next few decades, are the simple copy of that day.



A university diploma, not just a certain area of ​​stepping stone, or people out of the inertia of life exports.


Enjoy more resources, know more people, have more opportunities to get rid of those short-sighted, and even some ignorant point of view.


Sometimes the fork in life, is from a chance to start, and then farther and farther, no longer can not go back.


I am a girlfriend company driver, a serious lumbar disc herniation, but even a day leave did not dare to please. Because as long as he off a day off, it means that the attendance awards and subsidies are soaked soup, income half, and the family have to go to school daughter, no work wife and more than seventy of the mother.


He can jump to other places to work, but can not get rid of the driver of this career. From the long-distance car to the bus and then switch to the business car, can do is only in that narrow gap in the somersault.


That man, opened more than 20 years car, in the first-tier cities, holding the wages of four thousand dollars. Every day in addition to eight hours of normal work, there is an emergency interview, he must be on call.


He spent two months of wages, to the junior high school daughter reported a mathematical training. He said: "I must be for her to go to college, not for my promise, just want her later do not like me, can only be trapped in this kind of life, could not move.


This is why I still want to be like an old-fashioned, advised you to study hard, advise you to test the university. Not because the working girl is lower than others humble humble, nor is it because there is no other than this way to go elsewhere. But I am too clear, even a study of people who are tired, it is difficult to swallow the pain of life



That diploma, although you are not met, but also at least when you want to get rid of some kind of suffering, give you a little bit of ability and qualifications to help you push a new door, give you more opportunities to choose , To see a greater world.


For the vast majority of people, education is not to stand the peak, but not to fall into the bottom.

 

Do not let life sleep in your twenties.


Can not see the foot of the time, may wish to tiptoe stretch his neck, and strive to look to the distance.


Finally, I wish all the children this year to participate in college entrance examination can achieve their satisfaction with the results!