聪明的人，从不纠缠Clever man, never entangled

My assistant Linlin, these days looked very depressed.


I asked her what thoughts, she angrily and I said: "sister, overseas business department that the woman in the back of my bad words, mad at me, you say I want to find her to tear a?

 

I asked: "Have you recently been training, do you have a pass at the end of the exam? Did the PPT done to me?"

 

Lin Lin said with a hint: "No yet."

 

I went on to say: "She ah, in our company be the oldest female employees, and jobs have been unable to rise up, my heart grievances Tao Tao, to see who is not pleasing to the eye, she also in front of my face mulberry. Do not want to pay attention to this stubble child, we have a small goal, we should strive to move forward, and her entanglement, thanks to ah.

 

Linlin laughed: "Well, ah, understand that you are not let me care about these bad things right, I went to work.



In fact, these years, I met a lot of inexplicable slander, you did not provoke the man, he was behind you all slander.


At the beginning, I was angry, but later found that all such people, most of them live is not very smooth, but they are in this way, to block their own sense of powerlessness, to their own, find some heart balance.

 

If you and he torn, not only look embarrassed, but also a lot of energy and time wasted, which is what he hoped: anyway, I was so, you can not pull the move.

 

At this point, if you and his entanglement, you lose. Do not care, is the best contempt.



My neighbor, Z, is a middle-level manager of a real estate company, cut off two years ago when laying off. Ordinarily the old staff should not be in the list, it is estimated that Z offended which boss. Z angry work is not handover, jump foot cursed: "I must retaliate!

 

really. The big brother died around the company played two years of lawsuit, is said to have not yet settled. The company has a special legal department responsible for this matter, dragged on for a long time does not matter, most is to spend some money. And more than 40-year-old Z is not the same, and watched the golden age of life consumed in the unnecessary entanglement.

 

If he is only twenty years old, wasted two years, big deal come back again. But 40 years old is not the same, where affordable? Two years, for a nearly fifty years old in the workplace who fight what it means, it should be self-evident.


Compared to Z, my friend H is much clever.

 

H is a professional manager, three years ago was a company appointed general manager. How can the boss limit his power everywhere, so that his work can not be carried out. Barely support for six months, H is struggling to take the initiative to resign. Because it is his breach of contract, so only get a little reward.

 

I heard this after the thing, for his resentment, let him find a board to discuss a statement, or too loss. H said casually: "It does not matter, since the intention to leave, we should focus on the next stop, I do not and they are in this virtual time to throw it.

 

Soon, H went to a company as a general manager, all the way through the clutter, open up the soil, two years, the company's output and profits have doubled, and now, their company in the industry, has been ranked in the forefront of the country.

 

Occasionally, we chat in the WeChat, mention the original, asked him if there is no heart revenge ideas?


Haha laughed: "how can I have time to revenge, busy too busy to come! Free to the gym, not because the cause of the destruction of the body. Daughter-in-law have to accompany it, no longer busy and can not ignore the family. In the circle of friends did not see my travel photos, right?


Revenge, what an international joke, enjoy the time of life is not enough, pull those boring doing? "



Perhaps, everyone has had revenge in the heart of the grievances. Some because of the former, some because the former boss, some because of nonsensical people. When we are hurt, being deceived, being disappointed, the real meaning of these things, just to make us more clearly understand some of the things.

 

The process of entanglement will only exacerbate the loss.


Goddess Faye Wong always a love who looks like, let you make irresponsible remarks, she never said one. She ran herself frankly, even if the whole world said her gossip, she did not explain do not care, only sideways from a variety of fetters through, went to where they want to go.


Merry is not talking about the wind wins, the longest silent handsome.


So, for those malicious slander, silence is the best weapon, it is more powerful than the outbreak.


 

"Later Han Guo Tai Chuan" recorded the "broken buckle regardless of" the story: Guo Tai in Taiyuan, one day to see the way there is a person carrying a jar walk, walking, this jar suddenly fell to the ground , Crashing, scary. Who knows that pedestrians do not see, continue to go its way, just like nothing happened.


Guo Tai looked very strange to take the initiative to ask him: "Why is your jar crashed, do not see, abandoned, continue to walk?


The man replied, "Is it broken?"


Guo Tai feel this person to talk extraordinary, can afford to put down, is a Wizards, so advised him to school. The book records this person called Meng Min, the word uncle up. Meng Min school ten years later, the famous world.

 

Yes, life needs to look forward, as soon as possible from the bad emotions freed. If the energy and time spent on the useless things, that there are many concerns, used to enhance themselves?

 

Clever man, never entangled. Let yourself live more exciting, is the most wisdom of the practice.

 

When you become the best of their own, all the wind and water from the time, will bearish a lot of things, even if the year you cried people, will meet a smile.


我的助理琳琳，这几天显得很郁闷。


我问她有什么心事，她生气地和我说：“姐，海外事业部那个女的又在背后说我坏话，气死我了，你说我要不要去找她撕一把？”

 

我问：“你最近不是在接受培训吗，月底考试有把握通过吗？给我做的PPT完成了吗？”

 

琳琳不好意思地小声说：“没呢。”

 

我接着说：“她啊，在咱们公司算是年龄最大的女员工了，可职位一直升不上去，心里怨气涛涛，看谁都不顺眼，她还曾经当着我的面指桑骂槐呢。我才不想搭理这茬儿，我们是有小目标的，要努力往前走，和她纠缠，多亏呀。”

 

琳琳笑：“嗯嗯，明白了，您是不让我理这些烂事对吧，我去干活了。”



其实，这些年，我遇到过很多莫名其妙的诋毁，你根本没有招惹那人，他却在背后对你各种中伤。


开始的时候，我也生气，可后来发现，凡是这样的人，大多活得不怎么顺畅，他们不过是用这种方式，来遮挡自身的无力感，给自己，找一些心里平衡。

 

如果你和他撕扯，不仅样子难堪，还会浪费很多精力和时间，这正是他希望的：反正我就这样了，把你也拉着动不了。

 

此时，你要是和他纠缠，你就输了。不计较，才是最好的蔑视。



我的邻居Z，是一家房地产公司的中层管理人员，两年前在裁员时被裁掉了。按说老员工不应该在被裁之列，估计是Z得罪了哪位上司。Z气得工作也不交接，跳脚大骂：“我一定要报复！”

 

果真。这位大哥死死缠着公司打了两年的官司，据说还没了结。公司有专门的法务部门负责这事，拖再久也无所谓，最多就是花点钱。而四十多岁的Z就不一样了，眼看着人生的黄金年龄白白消耗在无谓的纠缠上。

 

如果他只有二十多岁，虚度两年，大不了翻盘重来。可是四十几岁就不一样了，哪里耗得起？两年，对一个年近五十岁在职场打拼的人意味着什么，应该是不言而喻的。


相比起Z，我的朋友H就聪明得多。

 

H是一位职业经理人，三年前被一家公司聘任为总经理。怎知老板处处限制他的权力，让他的工作无法开展。勉强支撑了半年，H实在举步维艰，就主动提出辞职。因为是他毁约，所以只拿到很少的一点酬劳。

 

我听说此事后，替他愤懑，让他找董事会讨个说法，不然太亏了。H轻描淡写地说：“无所谓，既然打算离开了，就要把精力放在下一站，我才不和他们在这虚掷光阴呢。”

 

不久，H又去一家公司当了总经理，一路披荆斩棘，开疆拓土，两年时间，把公司的产值和利润都翻了番，如今，他们公司在行业内，已排在国内前列。

 

偶尔一次，我们在微信上聊天，提起当初，问他有没有心生报复的想法？


H哈哈大笑：“我哪有时间报复，忙还忙不过来呢！有空去健身房，不能因为事业毁了身体。媳妇孩子也要陪吧，再忙也不能忽视家人。还有旅游，你在朋友圈没少看到我旅游的照片吧？


报复，开什么国际玩笑，享受生活的时间还不够用，扯那些无聊的干嘛？”



或许，每个人心里都曾有过报复的怨气。有的是因为前任，有的是因为前老板，有的是因为无厘头的人。当我们被伤害，被欺骗，被辜负，这些事情真正的意义，只是为了让我们更清楚看懂一些事一些人。

 

而纠缠的过程，只会加剧损失。


女神王菲永远一副爱谁谁的模样，任凭你说三道四，无谓的废话她从不多说一句。她坦然地经营着自己，就算全世界都说她的流言蜚语，她也不解释不搭理，只侧身从各种羁绊里穿过，走到自己想去的地方。


风流不在谈锋胜，袖手无言味最长。


所以，对于那些恶意的中伤，沉默是最好的武器，它比爆发更有力量。


 

《后汉书·郭泰传》记载了“破甑不顾”的故事：郭泰在太原时，有一天看到路上有一个人背着个瓦罐走路，走着走着，这瓦罐突然掉到地上去了，哗啦一声，吓人一跳。谁知那个行路人看也不看，继续走它的路，就像什么事也没有发生一样。


郭泰看了觉得很奇怪，就主动上前问他：“为什么你的瓦罐摔碎了，看也不看，弃之不顾，继续走路？”


那人回答：“破都破了，再看还有什么用呢？”


郭泰觉得此人谈吐不凡，拿得起放得下，是个奇才，于是劝他进学。书中记载此人叫孟敏，字叔达。孟敏求学十年之后，就名闻天下。

 

是啊，人生需要向前看，要尽快从不良的情绪中解脱出来。如果，把精力和时间一味耗费在无益的事上，那还有多少关注，用来提升自己呢？

 

聪明的人，从不纠缠。让自己活得更精彩，才是最智慧的做法。

 

当你成为最好的自己，一切风生水起时，会看淡很多事，哪怕是当年让你哭过的人，也会相逢一笑。